Maybe for the fear of being judged or for the kind of society they find themselves in, or even because they do not like that they are that way, many guys are only acting straight but in the real sense, they are not. The good thing is there are many signs a guy is only pretending to be straight.
You need to know when a guy is pretending because as a woman, you do not want to find yourself in a relationship where the man is acting or pretending to be who he is not.
We take out the time today, to find some of the most obvious signs that you can use to figure out, which others might have missed in the past.
Signs he is only pretending to be straight
1. He puts so much effort to show he is straight
If you meet a man who is always trying to show he is straight even when the situation doesn’t call for it, trust me, it is because he is not.
This is the easiest way of identifying someone who is only acting or pretending to be who he is not.
2. Who does he look at when you go out?
The person he is looking at when you two are in public is another way you can tell if he is pretending to be straight.
Most men who are straight look at the most good-looking girl around. If instead of that, he looks at the good-looking men, then that is the alarm bell you need. He is gay!
3. He is homophobic to the core
Just like the man making too much effort to show he is straight if a man is extra antagonistic to gay people, and shows clearly that he is homophobic, more than likely, he is either gay or is fighting being gay himself.
4. He prefers not to have a conversation about sexuality
One red flag you should not avoid when you think or begin to suspect your man may be gay is when he makes all effort to evade subjects that dwell on sexuality or his sexual orientation.
Most men pretending not to be gay tend to be agitated or defensive when a conversation about LGBTQ begins. This is because they are scared you may read through them when they lie so it’s better not to talk about it.
5. Does he have a very close male friend?
Having a very close male friend doesn’t just make one gay, but when a guy you are suspecting has a very close male friend whom he is attached to, whom he calls and chats with all the time, you may want to look a little closer because it is possible, something may just be going on.
6. What is his sexual life like?
The sex life of a man can tell you if he is straight or only pretending. The way he goes about your body and shows interest in getting down with you may be another thing that can give you the clue you need.
7. A man pretending to be straight will not show interest in women
By their nature, men are easily drawn by women, be it women they are in a relationship with, those they like, or even ordinary women they have nothing to do with. That is how man is created.
Hence, if you have a man who has no interest, whatever, in women and puts so much effort into having interest in you, as his lover, then he may just be another man pretending to be straight.
8. He makes jokes about being gay, right?
Men who are gay but are putting all the effort in the world to distance themselves from coming out of the closet will use jokes to disguise themselves. They will find a way of always making jokes that they are gay.
Another reason why they are always comfortable making jokes about being gay is because they use it as a way of testing the waters. They weigh the reactions of people around them to know if they should finally come out or remain in their hiding.
9. He is extremely secretiveÂ
A lot of things can make a man to be secretive but if he exhibits some of the tendencies above and still acts in a secretive manner, you may just have your answer right there.
He may be very secretive about his personal life, going the extra mile so you don’t see his phone apps, his chats, and even his browsing history. All these are because he is hiding something, which may just be his sexual orientation.
10. What is your intuition telling you?
Lastly, signs may lie to you, people may lie to you, and your boyfriend may lie to you. The one thing that may hardly lie to you is your intuition.
If your gut feeling has it that your man is gay but pretending to be straight, then that may just be it.
Your gut feeling will look at things you can see and even those you didn’t know you can see, and it is from those things that it will send you a message. Never be in a rush to trash your intuition.
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5 things that may not be signs of a man pretending to be straight
There are some signs that people may see and begin to believe one is gay but only pretending not to be. Here are some of the signs;
1. He is feminine in structure
So many people assume that if one is macho, he is straight and if one is feminine, he is most likely gay. This is completely untrue as many men may look either way and still be the direct opposite.
2. He is spotless and clean
Another false narrative is that when a guy is clean and prefers to keep his space spotless, he may most likely be gay. This is far from the truth as many straight men hate to live in dirty environments.
3. Does he keep many male friends?
A man can have many male friends and even have some whom he shares what is known as bromance. That does not mean he is gay.
4. He is not interested in having sex with you
Believe it or not, some men cannot be aroused by certain women because of certain things. Therefore, if he doesn’t want to have sex with you or you find it hard to arouse him, it doesn’t mean he is gay.
5. Not every anti-gay person is gay
Yes, we have said one of the ways to find out if he is gay is to see if he is a homophobe. This does not work in isolation as many people despise all that is gay because of their personal, religious, or even cultural beliefs.
