When a relationship ends, someone might just be left with a broken heart. Some people, go into a period of sadness for a short time and before they finally heal, they are already out looking for a rebound guy, someone that will serve the purpose of a dummy boyfriend until she gets back with her ex or is finally healed for a real relationship.
A majority of the time, girls find a rebound guy for several reasons including helping them rebuild their self-identity, fill an emotional void build self-esteem, or even get back at their ex.
Whatever the reason might be, it is often very easy to know if you are being used as a rebound.
Here are signs you are the rebound guy
1. Everything seems to be moving too fast
One of the first signs that you are nothing but a rebound guy is when she is pushing the relationship faster than normal.
Not long after you start dating, she wants to be holding hands in a way that suggests she wants to show it off, she wants to travel with you, attend certain events with you, and tell you back to back that she loves you.
Amidst all these, you do not feel the depth of her feelings or the connection is missing. You may be better off asking some questions.
2. She broke up rather recently and is all into you
Another sign is if she has just been out of a relationship she seems to have invested so much in and is now rushing into a new one with you.
Beyond moving pretty quickly with you, she seems to be very much into you and has settled rather fine. You may just be the calm before the storm.
3. There is so much hate and anger when she talks about her ex
Depending on how a relationship ends, there may be bad blood between ex-lovers, and women are mostly known to take it more to heart.
But then, if she harbors more hate for her ex and talks about him in anger, the most likely thing is that she has not gotten over him and she is just using you as a rebound. Your answer becomes clearer if the frequency is high.
4. She wants to make her ex-jealous
If more than anything else, your woman just wants to use you to make her ex jealous, it is clear that you are the rebound guy.
She wants to take many selfies with you and put them on social media with some cryptic messages, she wants to take you to certain places where she is sure to meet her ex and whenever she sees him, she tries to hold your hand or make some romantic moves. It is not admiration for you.
5. She compares you to her ex
If she always compares you to her ex, putting you way ahead of him and telling you how better you are than he is, then that is not a good sign. She is only trying to convince herself while she uses you to get back on her feet.
6. She keeps you away from family and close friends
Now, it is possible that even though she continues to upload your pictures on social media, she still tries to keep you away from family members and close friends.
This is a red flag. She is only using you to get at someone but doesn’t see a long relationship, which is why she tries to keep you away from everyone who matters and is close to her.
7. Does she stalk her ex on social media?
If you are dating a girl who will always return to check her ex on social media, you have one who has not gotten over him or has not found a place for you in her life. It is worse if she keeps stalking him just to make disparaging remarks about him to you.
8. The distance is there
Another sign that you are the rebound guy is when you keep realizing that there is so much distance emotionally between the two of you.
No matter how you try to make your activities fun-filled and enjoyable, you realize that the distance is still there. The answer may just be that she is unavailable emotionally because you were not meant to be in her life.
9. Her social media status
You can know so much about a person and how they feel and think by their posts on social media. If one moment she posts a picture with you and the next she is sounding bitter and sad all the time, making some cryptic remarks, she may likely be using you as a rebound.
10. What are the plans for the future?
She is excited and everything seems to be on a fast lane but how about plans for the future? If she is only enjoying the moment with you and doesn’t have anything to say when you talk about the future, it is simply because she doesn’t see a future that has you in it. She is here for a short while and when she is done using you, she will, surely, move.
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11. Something strange about the sex life
If you are the rebound guy, she will be interested in having a go with you. You may have so much of it, but there will be something strange about it. The connection will not be there no matter how much of it you have.
12. They keep you from knowing much about themselves
Another important sign that many may take for granted is her being rather secretive, Of course, she will tell you all about her ex, but that is where it all ends. She will make sure to tell you close to nothing about her life. All you will know are things on the surface, and that is where it will all end.
13. She seems to be interested in others
You are the one she is with at the moment, but she seems to be interested in other guys around, and she doesn’t try to hide it.
The reason behind this is that you are nothing more than a rebound guy to her. The sad part is that she isn’t interested in all the other advances, but she has no qualms about adding more to her rebound list.
14. You have nothing in common
You have managed to start this relationship with her, but it is clear to both of you that the two of you have nothing in common. The red flag for you here is when she is trying, by all means, to make you feel you have everything in common.
15. Your gut tells you
Above everything else, what do you feel? What does your gut tell you? If you are convinced within yourself and your gut tells you that you are the rebound guy, then you are most likely it. A lot of things can lie to you but your guts will hardly ever.
