There are times when finding the right words to start a conversation with a girl you like may be difficult. Well, this is the exact reason I have put together a guide on how to start these conversations and ways to sustain them.
Importantly, these tips can be used in physical settings, online, through text, or just starting a conversation with a girl you just met.
Interesting Tips To Start a Conversation with a Girl For the First Time
1. Greet and Introduce Yourself
If you are meeting a girl for the first time, there is no better way to get her attention and start talking to her than to say hello. Greeting creates a positive atmosphere for conversation and will serve as the “first impression and set the tone for further communication”.
The next foundation to be set is introducing yourself. Getting the idea of who you are can help the woman relax and become more interested in having further conversations with you.
One thing to keep in mind when introducing yourself to a girl you just met is her body language. Does she seem interested in you after greetings and introduction or not? If she seems interested, then it is a good opportunity to build a conversation with her.
2. Compliment Her
According to research, people feel valued and appreciated whenever they receive compliments. Therefore, complimenting a girl you want to start a conversation with can help build her confidence and make her more interested in talking to you.
Compliments are good communication starters and are also foundational in relationships.
3. Try Pickup Lines
Pick-up lines are often fun ways to start conversations with strangers. An article, The Science Behind Pick-Up Lines: Here’s Why They Work by top10.com claims that women tend to respond well to subtle pickup lines.
Great pickup lines can land you into an interesting conversation with a girl, whether to start a romantic affair or not.
Before you use a pickup line on a girl to have a conversation, it is important to know that while good lines can earn you a great conversation with a girl you just met, a bad one can throw you off the bus.
4. Offer or Ask For Help
It is a good opportunity to start a conversation by genuinely offering help or by helping the person you intend to build a conversation with. Offering to help a girl will make her see you in a positive light and if she does, she is likely to talk to you.
In a similar vein, if you ask a girl for help, she will feel helpful, especially if it is convenient for her. This will help build trust, regardless of whether you are meeting for the first time. Also, it will easily lead to a comfortable conversation.
5. Speak About a Shared Knowledge
You can start a conversation with a girl you like by commenting on something you share in common. This could be a place, friend, or any other thing.
Conversation starters using shared knowledge can build instant connection and trust.
How to Start a Conversation With a Girl Online or Over Text
Starting a conversation with a girl online or over text is easier than when you meet a girl physically. When you meet a girl online, whether through social media or a dating app, it is safe to check her profile to have an idea of who she is. This way, you will start a conversation with her, tilting towards her interests.
Some of the best ways to start conversations with a girl online include the following:
6. Make Reference to a Shared Interest or Friend
After you have gone through her profile, pick something you have in common or something you want to learn more about. It could be a movie she posts, a mutual friend, music, or a random post she made that piques your interest.
Then you can start a conversation either through a post she made (as a comment) or through a direct message.
Example: “I see you are interested in Ariana Grande, I think No Tears Left to Cry is her greatest song”.
If you want to make it more interesting, you can start by liking her posts to get noticed before starting any form of conversation with her.
See Also: Scientific Reasons To Avoid Mediocre Friends
7. Ask About Her Day
This works best over text. Send her a text asking about her day or any other activity you are aware of.
You can use her response to build a further conversation. For instance, when she replies with a little detail about her day, you can ask if it’s okay to call. Call her and ask for more information.
8. Create Suspense with Your Text
Texts that leave details out will pick her interest and she may want to know more. You can make it even more interesting when it is based on something she can relate to.
For example: “I did something crazy today and you can’t believe it”.
“I just heard Ghost by Justin Beiber as you recommended.”
“I came up with a theory about his lyrics and who he probably wrote the song about.”
9. Show Your Sense of Humor
Men and women find a sense of humor attractive. Scientific America reports that
humor is rarely anything funny at all; rather sharing a laugh can bring people closer together and even predict compatibility.
The report further states that humor “can be a weapon used to alienate and a means to communicate interest and intelligence”
As a man, bringing your sense of humor into play can be a great way to start a conversation with a woman, and trying it online is not a bad idea at all.
10. Ask Open-Ended Questions
Asking an open-ended question with a girl online will help you start a conversation with her and help the conversation last longer and flow better.
Some open-ended questions include:
- Where did you grow up?
- I notice you post a lot about clothes. What is your idea of great fashion?
